Healthy at Any Size


Hello Southernistas! The one thing I never ever talk about on my blog is weight loss or exercising or anything remotely like it but as I was wondering what to talk about I just couldn’t get away from this subject so I want to talk to y’all today about being healthy at any size. Now before you move on just hear me out first. I’ve spent most of my life on one diet or another I mean literally since I was 13 years old I’ve been dieting. I’ve lost weight and gained (more) weight. I decided in my 40s that I was getting off the diet hamster wheel and just make peace with my weight and live in my body and live my life and that is what I’ve been doing for the last 7 years.

Let me say right now before I continue that I am not getting weight loss surgery or starting a new diet in fact I’ve started a healthy lifestyle. Also I am not here to judge or put down weight loss or weight loss surgery. You have to do what is best for you! I had to make changes due to high blood pressure and I now use a CPAP machine so I knew I needed to make some changes but it took me a long time because all I heard was loose weight i.e. go on a diet.

Once I realized that getting healthy does not mean going on a diet but making life changes then I was able to realize that healthy does not equal dieting. So I’ve stopped eating fast food every day but I try to limit my fast food stops to once a week, I walk 2 miles or more 3–4 times a week, I eat at home more and bring my lunch to work but again to get to this point I had to stop looking at exercise and healthy eating as “dieting” which was a major obstacle for me. As a plus size woman diet culture it constantly pushed in my face and I constantly get unsolicited weight loss ads and suggestions on my social media sites when I block. It wasn’t easy but it helps when I go walking and I see bodies of all shapes and sizes being active, I see plus size influencers who work out not for weight loss but to take care of their bodies and I have an amazing doctor who really talks to me and not at me and treats ME the person.

Luckily there are loads of resources (listed below) out there to help you get started towards a healthy lifestyle regardless of what the scale says. Plus more and more brands are creating plus size workout wear we can be just as cute and stylish as we move our bodies. If you’re looking at being healthy as dieting just know that you are not alone in this thinking. Once we get off that diet wheel we don’t want to fine ourselves back on the weight loss/weight gain merry go round but I just want to encourage you to get moving weather it’s dancing, walking, bike riding, skating or whatever it may be just enjoy moving your body.

Until next Southernistas! The fashion will be back in the next blog…PROMISE!

If you’re wanting to start a health journey check out these websites:

Health At Every Size Community

National Eating Disorder Website

Association for Size Diversity and Health

I am Not a Before

Hey Y’all! Hope y’all are having a great Memorial Day weekend and that you’ve taken the time from your cookouts and relaxing to remember those who’ve sacrificed their lives for our country.

Today I want to talk about the new campaign Dia & Co has debuted called #FittoThrive with the motto You are not a Before, You are never a Before. This is an active wear line from Dia that you can order as a separate box called a Dia Active Box. There is a wait list right now for the Dia active box when you order one. If you don’t know about Dia or you’re not familiar with Dia they are a fashion subscription service exclusively for plus size women size 14 & up. You fill out a very detailed style profile, you set the dollar amount you are willing to spend for each item, and there is space for additional comments (no character limits). You pay a $20.00 styling fee and you will receive 5 pieces picked for you by a stylist. Once you receive the box you have 5 days to try on what you receive and decide if you want to keep everything or you can keep what you like and return what you don’t like in the return envelope they provide for you. The $20 styling fee is applied to your total and if you the keep everything in the box you will receive an additional 25% discount.

Since I’ve started on this journey of self love and fashion the one thing that really annoys me are the commercials I see everyday on television, online, and in print media you know the ones where you have people saying how miserable they were before they lost 20, 50, 100+lbs and there is always the before picture of them looking so miserable and the after picture of them living their best life. Now before I continue let me just state I am not anti weight loss if you are on a weight loss journey then GO YOU. My problem is the message that before weight loss you are this unhappy, miserable person who mustn’t show yourself to the world and you must hide yourself in the bell tower away from the general public. Everyday and everywhere we are being bombarded with the billion dollar diet & weigh loss industry’s message that you’ll never be happy if you’re not thin. We have been conditioned to believe that skinny equals healthy and that’s not true. You can lead a very active and healthy life at any size. I speak from experience because I’ve tried just about every diet out there thinking if I just loose the weight I will be beautiful, I can wear beautiful clothes, I will live my best life. I forgot that God calls me beautiful and He loves me and not my size. I forgot that God’s wonderful word tells me that I am fearfully and wonderfully made and not that when you’re skinny you’ll be great. The only weight God wants me to shed is the weight of sin and shame. The weight of negative thoughts and the ugly words people have called me and spoken over my life. The Father wants me to be free from all that and more and walk in His word and what He has called me (and you)to be.

That’s why I love this new campaign from Dia & Co featuring plus size women from all walks of life who are leading active and fulfilled lives. They prove that fitness is not about weight loss but fitness is about taking care of the body you have at whatever size you are. What’s even more exciting is Dia has joined with tennis great Venus Williams and she will be offering her line in plus exclusively through Dia & Co in Sepetmeber! To learn more about Dia active click on the link below to view their video about Dia active wear.

I am not a before by any means! I am beautiful! I am wearing beautiful clothes now! I am living my best life now! As my fellow Dia babe and friend Laura says I am wonderfully made! I am never a before!

Until next time y’all! Be Bold, Be Fearless, Be Confident!