More Sweater Dresses

Hello Southernistas! Did you really think last week’s post be the last post about sweater dresses? Of course not! As the temperatures drop and we get closer to winter, December 21st, sweater dresses are a must for my closet and yours too so here are more sweater dresses I got from Lane Bryant. I’ve also added links to other brands at different price points.

Until next time Southernistas and remember Be Bold, Be Beautiful, Be Confident!

Lane Bryant
Lane Bryant Hacci Midi Dress — also come in Purple and Green
Ashley Stewart Bell Sleeve Sweater Dress
Ashely Stewart Fringe Sweater Dress
Swing Sweater Dress — Roamans

Sofistafunk Girl

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Hello Southernistas! I hope you’ve had a great week and are getting ready for not only the weekend but to regain an hour of sleep as we turn back out clocks. Today I want to talk about an independent size inclusive brand that is woman and black owned and a totally cool and unique fashion brand and that is Sofistafunk the Skirt Co . I discovered this brand about 3 maybe 4 years ago thanks to an Instagram ad. Arlinda McIntosh is the owner and incredible designer of this brand and trust me when I say once you see her designs you will find yourself reaching for your credit card. 

The designs really are one of a kind I mean Arlinda elevates the denim skirt to a whole new level and believe me you’ll get nothing but compliments. I’m not going to lie to y’all some of her pieces are expensive but they are worth your dollars and she offers customization plus this brand is environmentally responsible and most of their designs produce zero waste! If you have any questions you can reach out to Arlinda and she will respond to you pretty quickly. This brand doesn’t just offer denim skirts I just love the denim skirts but you will find dresses, tops, and accessories also.

As a plus size woman independent brands are a plus size girls best friend! They really do design with a larger body in mind and they give us the fashion that we want and demand and they are worth every dollar. I have purchased two denim skirts from Sofistafunk and I have never been disappointed. 

When you order from Sofistafunk keep in mind everything is hand made so it will not ship out that same day you order it takes about 10–14 days without customization. She does offer customization which can add to how long it takes to receive your order but it is well worth the wait and Arlinda always adds some little extra goodies in your order. 

I recently purchase this lovely maxi denim skirt and it fit my 5″3 frame perfectly and I’ve gotten nothing but compliments. Don’t sleep on this brand!

Until next time Southernistas!

Sofistafunk Denim Maxi Skirt, Top — Ashley Stewart, Denim Booties — Nine West

Healthy at Any Size

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Hello Southernistas! The one thing I never ever talk about on my blog is weight loss or exercising or anything remotely like it but as I was wondering what to talk about I just couldn’t get away from this subject so I want to talk to y’all today about being healthy at any size. Now before you move on just hear me out first. I’ve spent most of my life on one diet or another I mean literally since I was 13 years old I’ve been dieting. I’ve lost weight and gained (more) weight. I decided in my 40s that I was getting off the diet hamster wheel and just make peace with my weight and live in my body and live my life and that is what I’ve been doing for the last 7 years.

Let me say right now before I continue that I am not getting weight loss surgery or starting a new diet in fact I’ve started a healthy lifestyle. Also I am not here to judge or put down weight loss or weight loss surgery. You have to do what is best for you! I had to make changes due to high blood pressure and I now use a CPAP machine so I knew I needed to make some changes but it took me a long time because all I heard was loose weight i.e. go on a diet.

Once I realized that getting healthy does not mean going on a diet but making life changes then I was able to realize that healthy does not equal dieting. So I’ve stopped eating fast food every day but I try to limit my fast food stops to once a week, I walk 2 miles or more 3–4 times a week, I eat at home more and bring my lunch to work but again to get to this point I had to stop looking at exercise and healthy eating as “dieting” which was a major obstacle for me. As a plus size woman diet culture it constantly pushed in my face and I constantly get unsolicited weight loss ads and suggestions on my social media sites when I block. It wasn’t easy but it helps when I go walking and I see bodies of all shapes and sizes being active, I see plus size influencers who work out not for weight loss but to take care of their bodies and I have an amazing doctor who really talks to me and not at me and treats ME the person.

Luckily there are loads of resources (listed below) out there to help you get started towards a healthy lifestyle regardless of what the scale says. Plus more and more brands are creating plus size workout wear we can be just as cute and stylish as we move our bodies. If you’re looking at being healthy as dieting just know that you are not alone in this thinking. Once we get off that diet wheel we don’t want to fine ourselves back on the weight loss/weight gain merry go round but I just want to encourage you to get moving weather it’s dancing, walking, bike riding, skating or whatever it may be just enjoy moving your body.

Until next Southernistas! The fashion will be back in the next blog…PROMISE!

If you’re wanting to start a health journey check out these websites:

Health At Every Size Community

National Eating Disorder Website

Association for Size Diversity and Health

I’m Baaaccckkkk!

Hello Southernistas! Did you miss me? Did you even realize I was gone? Well I missed y’all. Forgive me for leaving? So I went back and looked and I haven’t posted anything since the beginning of 2019 and well I don’t think 2020 needs to be mentioned right? Last year was a year of sheltering in place and for me quarantining because I tested positive for COVID but that’s over and we are halfway through 2021. I am fully vaccinated and I hope you are too! If not I encourage you to get vaccinated and be safe!So while I haven’t been written anything in well over a year it doesn’t mean I have abandoned my fashion journey. By no means in fact I think that I’ve upped my fashion game and I have grown into my style but still pushing myself. Some trends I’ve tried and loved and some I abandoned which is totally cool. While I didn’t completely jump on the lounge wear bandwagon I did add to my closet more lounge wear adjacent pieces. My shoe collection has grown so much which I didn’t think would happen once Payless closed their doors but I had options and I exercised those options looking at you Just Fab.

So this year saw my church reopen every Sunday instead of every other Sunday. We saw a new and historic President and Vice President sworn in this year. On the fashion front Betsey Johnson did a collaboration with Torrid (which I indulged in) and Target did an amazing dress collection with Christopher John Rogers, Rixo and Alexa, and my absolutely favorite blogger Kellie Brown of andigetdressed.com did her first ever collaboration with Amazon’s the Drop and I hope to see more collaborations for Kellie! Again I indulged in all of these.

I will do a separate blog post about my turning 50, yes, 50 this year! More to come.

So I am officially back with a slight change to my name and I am excited to be back! I am including some pictures of some of my purchases from the said collections I mentioned.

Until next time Southernistas! Be Bold, Beautiful, Be Brave!

Betsy Johnson x Torrid Rainbow Dress (sold out)
Christopher John Rogers x Target Tie Strap Hi Low Dress
KelliB x Amazonthedrop Dress (sold out)

Rediscovering my Closet

Hey Southernistas! I hope y’all are enjoying your Labor Day weekend and that you are truly enjoying this last official holiday of the Summer.

Since I started this journey of loving myself and discovering fashion I will admit that my shopping has kicked up a notch. Whereas I use to go shopping and felt like nothing looked good on me I now go shopping and walk out with several pieces or I’m online ordering. For the past several months there has been a box waiting for me practically everyday.

In the month of July I busted my budget and the blame lays squarely at Eloquii’s feet! I mean I’m only human and who could resist their clearance sale where you could get 80% off can we say hello Draper James collection! After practically melting my credit card I decided that for the month of August I would put myself on a shopping band and shop my closet. This was not an easy thing to do especially when Dress Barn was having an amazing sale (75%off) and so was Lane Bryant and then Eloquii had their dress sale but nevertheless I resisted (even if I did dream about shopping) and stuck to my decision not to buy anything new but wear what is already in my closet. Now that August has passed and September has arrived I can honestly say I am so glad I made the decision to shop my closet and my wallet is thankful too. I rediscovered dresses that I really loved and it forced me to really think and put together outfits everyday plus I got to wear at least 4 of the 7 pairs of shoes I bought in July from Eloquii (did I mention they were 80% off). I encourage you to shop your closet and experiment with putting together outfits. Everyday was a new discovery in my closet and so I wanted to share some of my favorite looks from August.

Top from Dia & Co, Skirt from ASOS (old), Shoes from Just Fab (old)

Top (similar here)& Skirt (old) from Simply Be, Shoes from Venus (here), Cross body bag from Dia & Co

Dress from the Prabal Gurung collection for Lane Bryant (old) Shoes from Just Fab, Tote from Catos (old)

Dress from Ellos (similar here) Shoes from Payless

Shirt and shoes from Eloquii (old) Skirt from Sofistafunk (no longer available)

Dress from Eloquii (here) Shoes from Eloquii (no longer available) Bag from Amazon (here)

Until next time Southernistas remember Be Bold, Be Fearless, Be Confident!

Weekend Style

Hey Y’all! Happy Sunday Southernistas! I hope y’all’s weekend has been a good weekend and that you have recharged your batteries and are ready to start another work week. I look forward to Sundays to go to church and be revived and renewed by the Holy Spirit.

On the weekend it is so tempting to let ourselves “go” as my Grandmother would say especially when you get up through the work week and slay in the office it is easy to want to throw on sweat pants and a t-shirt and call it a day. I am very intentional in my fashion choices even on the weekends because in the past I have just thrown on anything and left the house but those days are behind me. I still want to look very chic but casual and this Roaman’s scarf print maxi dress from Full Beauty is the perfect choice when I want to look stylish and still be causal. I actually bought this dress in several prints and it was the best decision I made! This dress is very light and comfortable. You can add a denim jacket and white tennis shoes as we start to make that transition to Fall or wear it as I did today with some cute low heeled mules or with some cute wedges. This is a perfect weekend look







Roaman’s Scarf Print Dress in Blue Boarder Pint (here) White mules from Payless Shoe Source (old)

Until next time be Be Bold, Be Fearless, Be Confident!

Black & White

Hey Y’all!

Black and white is one of the classic combinations in fashion I mean you can’t go wrong with this color combo I mean the King of Pop himself even had a hit with a song titled Black or White. I know many myself included think of black & white as a basic combination but it is actually very chic and sophisticated and it doesn’t have to basic or boring. I actually learned this when I was reading the blog Supersize My Fashion titled BLK/WHT (click here to read) this past January and I was bowled over with how she took these classic colors up a notch and I was inspired to recreate her look but put my own spin on the look. I began my search for a dress similar to what Dionne was wearing and I began to despair that I would find something similar because the dress Dionne wore was sold out. Just when I was ready to give up hope I received a catalog from Venus which is a new company to me, but as I began to look through the catalog I discovered this black and white lace up dress. I could not believe my eyes and I was over the moon when I saw they offered it in plus size so I immediately went to their website and ordered the dress. When the dress I arrived it was every bit as beautiful as it looked on the website. Then my search began for a pair of shoes, I knew I didn’t want boots, and once again I started to get discouraged until I went on Amazon and found these black & white shoes (here)! They are actually a pair of shoes I didn’t order two pairs and wore one black shoe and one white shoe LOL. My overall style is modest so I paired this white blouse I got from Eloquii a few years ago underneath the dress because the neckline is a little too low for my aesthetic. I was so pleased with how this look came together and got so many compliments when I got to church.





Until next time Southernistas and remember Be Bold, Be Fearless, Be Confident!

You Can’t Wear That! Floral Prints

Hey Y’all!

I must confess that I have not always been crazy about floral prints but I must admit they are starting to grow on me. I think it’s because floral prints are a staple in every Southern woman’s closet but it has been a fashion rule that they are not for plus size women and for me my aversion was along the same lines as my one time aversion to polka dots that being I don’t want to look fat but I have to remind myself I don’t look fat I am fat (it’s just an adjective) so I can toss that logic out the window. Floral prints to me have also represented old lady style whenever I thought about them. I never looked at them as fresh or pretty I just looked at them and thought Grandma. Slowly I’m starting to feel this print and it is a good feeling. I see them as not only fresh and pretty but they are a great mood lifter especially in the winter when I’m longing for Spring to arrive. I know I’m repeating myself when I say this but there is a floral print for everyBODY and it’s up to you to decide how bold you want to go with your choice. I’m sure by now you Southernistas know that I like to go pretty bold with my fashion choices and that goes for a floral print. When I got my last fix from Stitch Fix my stylist Rebecca included this beautiful floral maxi dress and I could not be happier. I love the bold flowers on this dress and I decided to pair it with my Botkier floral wedges (here)and this cute tote from Nine West and a simple necklace. When I saw myself in this floral maxi dress the only thoughts that popped in my head was how good I looked in this dress and how much I loved the big bold flowers because it represents my new outlook on life!




Floral Maxi Dress from Stitch Fix, Botkier Floral Print Wedges (old), Tote from Nine West (old)

Until next time Southernistas remember Be Bold, Be Fearless, Be Confident!

You Can’t Wear That! Stripes

You Can’t Wear That! Stripes

Hey Y’all!

The one thing I always here when it comes to plus size women wearing any stripes is that they make us look fat. Since no one wants to look fat, except we’re already fat, we as plus size women avoid stripes like they are a deadly and contagious disease! Here’s the thing stripes are for everyBODY! Several Mother Days ago my Mother and daughter’s gift to me was a sleeveless dress with stripes. When I first saw the dress all I felt was dread because again it was sleeveless, stripes, and it was graphic stripes to top it off. I loved the color and I could always wear a shrug to cover my arms but what could do about the stripes? I tried not to let the fear show on my face as I looked at the dress and I knew I was going to wear it because I could never hurt my Mom’s or daughter’s feelings (I’m not a monster) so I took a deep breath and put the dress on but the problem was I couldn’t see how good I looked in the dress because I kept thinking I look fat in these stripes. Then I walked into work and all I heard was how great I looked. The sincere compliments flowed all day and not once did I hear those stripes make you look fat. I still have that dress and I still get nothing but compliments when I wear the dress.

My Mother’s Day Gift

Since then I’ve bought several outfits with every size of stripe and I wear them with confidence which is the key to wearing any outfit. If you’re still wary about wearing stripes think about wearing a skirt or a top or accessorize.

Trumpet Maxi Skirt from Eloquii (old) Shirt from Eloquii (old) Faux Fur from Full Beauty

I love this wrap dress from Eloquii because the stripes are broken up on the dress.

Wrap dress from Eloquii (old) Shoes from Nine West (old) Bag from Cato Fashion (old)

There is a stripe out there for you. There are dresses that have one type of stripe at the top and different strip on the bottom so you can draw attention to or from whatever area you like or don’t like. This really cute dress from Ellos which has horizontal stripes at the top and chevron stripe at the bottom which I love draws the eye down.

Dress from Ellos (here)

I recently purchased this really cute dress from the Draper James collection for Eloquii which has a thin pin stripe.

Draper James for Eloquii Strip Wrap Dress (here) Shoes from DSW (no longer available) Purse from Amazon

Until next time remember Be Bold, Be Fearless, Be Confident!

Here are some other beautiful options here, here, here, here, here, here, here, here, here

Gingham Style

Happy 4th of July y’all! Happy Birthday America!

If you follow me on Instagram (if you don’t why aren’t you?!) you will notice the one print I am obsessed with gingham! I have rediscovered my love of gingham and the fact that it is a trend that looks like it going to around for a while makes me so happy although if it wasn’t I would still wear this print. I own several gingham dresses, skirts, shoes and I plan to buy even more. Gingham doesn’t just come in black and white print but you can get gingham in many colors and it’s up to you how big or small you want to go with the print. For me this print is summer and if there was an official print/pattern of summer it would be gingham. I know there are some of you who aren’t crazy about this print because you believe it makes you look like a picnic blanket and I say what’s wrong with that? Picnics are fun and if I’m wearing something that makes you think of a picnic in the park friends & family or that special someone then all the more reason to wear gingham. Trying to decide what to wear for the 4th of July and you don’t want to do the obvious red, white, and blue or wear shorts and a t-shirt but want a more chic look this is the print that will take your look from super causal to chic and casual. For me as a Southerner gingham is that quintessential southern print for a southern lady. When I saw this dress on Lane Bryant’s website I knew it would be the perfect look for this July 4th holiday.

Gingham Dress from Lane Bryant (click here)

I decided I wanted a casual look so I wore these cute white mules from Payless Shoe Source and do a little print mixing with probably my favorite tote from JustFab.com.



If you don’t have any gingham in your wardrobe I encourage you to add it to your closet. For more gingham fashion click here, here, here, here, here, here, here.

Have a great 4th of July and remember BE BOLD, BE FEARLESS, BE CONFIDENT!

This is not a sponsored post.