Dealing with Rejection

rejection: 1. the dismissing or refusing of a proposal, idea, etc. 2. the spurning of a person’s affections.

Hi Southernistas I always like for my post to be uplifting, encouraging, and full of fashion so I try to avoid dark and heavy topics that may be triggering for some of you but I feel the need to talk about rejection. In this thing called life we are going to face rejection and quite frankly it sucks! We face it on our jobs when that presentation we worked so hard on or that great idea gets rejected by the boss or client, job searches, in our dating life (for those of you who have one), in familial situations, even with our friends we can face rejection I mean you want to try the new Asian fusion restaurant and everyone else wants to hang out at the same old same old.

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No one likes to be dismissed or spurned and I like to think of myself as an expert in this field. In school I was the one who was always picked last for EVERYTHING, I sat alone at lunch. Even in college I had a wide circle of friends but whenever we went out all of my friends were approached and I was just…there and I was like “hello over here.” I was always the wallflower! After college the number of thank you but no thank you letters I received in my job search really made me think “did my mom just waste thousands of dollars on my expensive college education for nothing?” Why aren’t companies breaking down my door to hire me?

As a Christian many times my well meaning brothers and sisters in Christ will say “they rejected Jesus and His apostles so expect the same” and while I know they mean well this is not always what I want or wanted to hear. I know they are trying to be encouraging but there are times I reject this because I don’t need a “cliché” I need more than a tried and true saying. I am always so much more appreciative when I can talk with a fellow believer and they don’t start with they rejected Jesus but they really pour into me with words of encouragement and when needed correction to help me deal with the rejection. They give me a Jesus perspective on the rejection that I can’t see at the time because I am so wounded by the rejection.

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As I got older I found myself slowly withdrawing from any situation that would lead to me being rejected or saying yes to everything so I wouldn’t be rejected because a person can only take so much! Rejection hurts no matter how gently someone tells you no although there are those who take pleasure in rejecting people. When we start to fear being rejected we find ourselves in a position of always saying yes which leads to over commitment and being taking advantage of by some truly awful people who feel no guilt at using you. This fear of rejection to the point of closing yourself off from people or either saying yes to everything is called rejection sensitive dysphoria which is defined as People who have an emotional reaction to negative judgments, exclusion, or criticism beyond what most people feel. While this is not a medical or a recognized mental health issue it is a serious and real thing that can hinder your growth as a person.

So here are some of my suggestions for dealing with rejection:

  1. Know that rejection is a part of life and there is nothing you can do to avoid rejection. You are going to be rejected its how you deal with the rejection that’s important.
  2. Some of the most famous people have suffered a lot of rejection but it didn’t stop them you have to be persistent. Remember that no can lead to a greater yes in a greater career. J.K. Rowling was not an overnight success.
  3. Look at the rejection as a blessing in disguise. Sure that guy/girl turned you down but then you meet “the one” and realize you had a lucky escape. That so called dream job or promotion you didn’t get? Then you discover it was more or a nightmare than a dream…whew!
  4. You are allowed to feel and be hurt when you are rejected but not wallow in self pity. The worse advice I’ve ever received was to suck it up and move on like it never happened. NO! Give yourself permission and a time limit (I give myself 24–48 hours) to be hurt, sad, angry, or whatever you’re feeling then move on. I’m not saying when the time limit is up the feeling just disappear they don’t but you’re able to function better and have perspective. If it requires therapy seek help but don’t act like it didn’t affect you! Hear speaks the voice of experience.
  5. Reach out to your tribe! When you’ve been rejected there is nothing like having those who know you and love you best surround you with love, prayer, encouragement, and guidance! Lord knows where I’d be without my Mom, daughter, church, and besties Lisa & Laura!
  6. Be open to rejection and dare I say embrace it! Yes I said it be open to rejection be willing to approach that person, apply for that job, pitch that idea to your boss do whatever it is knowing there is a chance you will be rejected but you’ll walking away knowing you tried and that is half the battle!
  7. Turn the rejection into a positive! Some of the richest people in the world started their business because they were rejected so they struck out on their own and the rest is Microsoft history!
  8. Use that rejection to work on you and better yourself. Sometimes rejection can reveal something about you that needs improvement.
  9. I can’t say it enough and I know I’ve already said it in #4 but find a qualified and good therapist that can help you deal with rejection. They can give you the tools you need to help you deal with rejection and if you suffer with rejection sensitive dysphoria.

Last but not least try not to take every rejection so personally. It took me years to learn how to deal with rejection and see the pluses and not see it as God punishing me. I can honestly look back over my 51 years of life and see that many of the rejections I received was the best thing that ever happened to me. If I had got that job, stayed with that guy just to be in a relationship, maintained that friendship, and so many other things that were harmful to me I wouldn’t be where I am now and who I am. I don’t think I would be here. There is no doubt Jesus is infinitely more wise than I will ever be and knows what is best for me!

So just know rejection is a part of life but it doesn’t have to define your life or cause you to miss out on what’s to come!

Until next time Southernistas!

Wednesday Reads

Hello again book lovers! Today I want to share with y’all what I’ve read, what I’m currently reading, and what is up next in my cozy mystery reading adventures. July has been for me a month of non stop reading and yet my TBR pile doesn’t seem to be getting any smaller.

With it being so hot and know for some you the temps have been in the 100s this is the perfect time to stay inside and read a good book:).

What good books are you reading?

Finished Reading

Murder Is No Picnic (Cape Cod Foodie Mystery) by Amy Pershing

This is the third book in the Cape Cod foodie mystery series and I highly suggest you read the 2nd book An Eggnog to Die For before you read this book as there are references to the second book that for me at least was a slight distraction from the actual plot of this book.

Samantha Barnes the Cape Cod foodie is really excited for her 4th of July clambake she’s planning and has discovered the perfect blueberry buckle to serve. When she gets the chance to meet famed celebrity chef Clara Foster and learn how to make the blueberry buckle for her blog is beyond excited. The day was great and Sam had so much fun with Clara so she is shocked to discover the next day Clara has died in a house fire. When carelessness is believed to be the reason for the fire Sam knows that Clara was too a good a chef to leave a frying pan on a stove unattended and is determined to prove that Clara was murdered.

I found myself steadily engrossed in the plot. I definitely see growth in Samantha and all of the additional characters in this book. I never found myself getting bored with the storyline and there were not too many red herrings.

I give Murder Is No Picnic 4 stars

Murder, She Knit (A Knit & Nibbles Mystery) by Peggy Ehrhart

This was the July Cozy Mystery Book Club pick and I was looking forward to discovering a new (to me) series and author. There are nine books in this series with book 10 in the works so it is a very popular series.

Five years after Pamela Paterson became a widow she is settling into her life and career as an editor for a craft magazine and an empty nester. She runs into an old friend Amy who has moved to Arborville, NJ to teach at the local college. Pamela invites Amy to her knitting group known as knit and nibble but Amy never shows up and when everyone in the group leaves Pamela finds Amy’s body in her yard stabbed with a knitting needle when she goes looking for her cat.

This book was not for me and when the killer was revealed I just couldn’t see how the person who was the killer could have been the killer. I mean everything pointed to 1 of 2 people and it wasn’t the killer. How could everyone enter and left Pamela’s house and not see Amy’s body or hear the murder? I was also disappointed that there were knitting patterns included in the book. I never really fully connected with Pamela.

I give this book 2.5 stars

Currently Reading

Murder at the Christmas Cookie Bake-off (A Beacon Bakeshop Mystery) by Darci Hannah

I am hooked on this series! I read the first book in this series Murder at the Beacon Bakeshop quickly because I just couldn’t put the book down. Then I immediately bought the second book in the series which just so happens to be Christmas themed and I just couldn’t wait until December to read it!

Darci Hannah does not disappoint with her second book in this series and I am trying to pace myself but if work didn’t interfere with my reading I would be home right now curled up with a cup of coffee reading this book but I will be reading on my lunch break!

Next Up

Death by Bubble Tea (Night Market Mystery Series) by Jennifer J. Chow

I am very excited to read this first book in this series by Jennifer J. Chow who is also the author of The Sassy Cat series and Winston Wong series. This will be my first time reading anything by this author but I am really looking forward to reading this book especially since it takes place in Los Angeles and not in a small town. If the reviews I’ve been seeing on Instagram by bookstagrammers are anything to go by this is going to be a treat!

1st Book in a New Cozy Series

Book Blurb:

When Yale Yee discovers her cousin Celine is visiting from Hong Kong, she is obliged to play tour guide to a relative she hasn’t seen in twenty years. Not only that, but her father thinks it’s a wonderful idea for them to bond by running a food stall together at the Eastwood Village Night Market. Yale hasn’t cooked in years, and she hardly considers Celine’s career as a social media influencer as adequate experience, but because she’s just lost her job at her local bookstore, she feels she has no choice.

Yale and Celine serve small dishes and refreshing drinks, and while business is slow, it eventually picks up thanks to Celine’s surprisingly useful marketing ideas. They’re quite shocked that their bubble tea, in particular, is a hit — literally — when one of their customers turns up dead. Yale and Celine are prime suspects due to the gold flakes that Celine added to the sweet drink as a garnish. Though the two cousins are polar opposites in every way, they must work together to find out what really happened to the victim or the only thing they’ll be serving is time.

New Release Tuesdays!

Hello book lovers! I know a post from me on a Tuesday?! I’ve been thinking about jumping on this train for awhile. Every Tuesday new books by new and established authors make their debut and I see quite a few book worms share the latest releases and what they’re looking forward to adding to their TBR pile so like a lemming I am following the others.

For those of you who follow me know that my favorite genre is mystery and within the mystery genre I love cozy mysteries now I am not going to mention all 17 new cozy mysteries that came out today but here are few and hopefully they will cause you to read your first cozy, revisit an series, or introduce you to a new series. If you’d like to see all the new releases check out or

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  1. No Parm No Foul (Grilled Cheese Mystery) by Linda Reilly
Book 2

Every since I read the first book in this series Up to No Gouda I have been waiting for this 2nd book in the Grilled Cheese mystery series and it is finally here. This is a Halloween/Fall theme cozy so if you’re tired of the heat and ready for fall this is a great cozy to get you in that fall mood.

Book Blurb

After a long hot summer in Balsam Dell, Carly Hale is ready for crisp Vermont weather and gourmet grilled cheeses at her Grilled Cheese Eatery. And the upcoming Halloween food competition is the perfect way to impress the locals.

But Ferris Menard, the owner of Sub-a-Dub-Sub, is nursing a serious grudge against Carly. Two days before the competition, one of Carly’s employees quit his part-time gig at Menard’s sub shop, sending Menard into a serious snit. In a confrontation at the Eatery, Menard accused Carly of sabotage and vowed to bring her down.

That’s when Menard’s body is found in his kitchen the morning after the competition, a steak knife sticking out of his heart. But Menard had a slew of enemies, and if Carly doesn’t figure out which one is the culprit, she might find herself — or someone she cares about — serving grilled cheese sandwiches under lock and brie!

2. Mint Chocolate Murder (Ice Cream Shop mystery) by Meri Allen

Book 2

Second book in the Ice Cream Shop series and a great addition to your summer reading list. This is another fall theme cozy mystery and I am looking forward to reading this second book in the series. I must admit I was a fan of the first book only because I just didn’t buy the amateur sleuth Riley Rhodes as a former CIA Liberian other than that it was a solid read. I the first book 3 stars

Book Blurb

Riley Rhodes returns in the second delicious cozy set in a New England ice cream shop, Meri Allen’s Mint Chocolate Murder!

When Udderly Delightful Ice Cream shop manager Riley Rhodes is summoned to Penniman’s Moy Mull Castle, it’s the cherry on top of a successful summer season. The gothic pile built by an eccentric New England Gilded Age millionaire has been transformed into a premiere arts colony by Maud Monaco, a reclusive former supermodel. As part of Moy Mull’s Fall Arts Festival, Maud is throwing a fantasy ice cream social and hires Riley to whip up unique treats to celebrate the opening of an exhibit by Adam Blasco, a photographer as obnoxious as he is talented.

As Penniman fills up with Maud’s art-world friends arriving for the festival, gossip swirls around Blasco, who has a dark history of obsession with his models. Riley’s curiosity and instincts for sleuthing — she was a CIA librarian — are piqued, and she wonders at the hold the cold-hearted photographer has over the mistress of Moy Mull.

But when Adam is found dead behind the locked door of Moy Mull’s dungeon, Riley realizes there’s more than one suspect who’d wanted to put the malicious photographer on ice.

3. Murder Spills the Tea (Tea by the Sea Mystery) by Vicki Delany

Book 3

First I love Vicki Delany! I have a fan of her Year Round Christmas series, and her Lighthouse mystery series which she writes under the name Eva Gates. She is also the author of several other series under her name and other pseudonyms so you can’t go wrong with anything she writes. Vicki is one of the authors that I always pre-order her books. Plus this is another book set in Cape Cod and I am here for it!

Book Blurb:

The country’s hottest TV cooking show is coming to Cape Cod. And against her better judgment, Lily Roberts is entering America Bakes! with her charming tearoom, Tea by the Sea. Filming is already proving disruptive, closing the tearoom during Lily’s busiest season. But tensions really bubble over when infamous bad-boy chef and celebrity judge, Tommy Greene, loses his temper with Lily’s staff, resulting in an on-camera blowup with Cheryl Wainwright. Just as Lily thinks the competition can’t get more bitter, Tommy is found dead in Tea by the Sea’s kitchen . . . murdered with Lily’s rolling pin.

Suspicion immediately falls on Cheryl, but the temperamental star has racked up plenty of culinary clashes in the past, both on- and off-screen. And nearly anyone associated with Tommy or the show could be the killer: be it one of Lily’s fierce competitors, a member of the beleaguered film crew, or even one of Tommy’s fellow judges — struggling cookbook maven, Claudia D’Angelo or beauty contest winner, Scarlet McIntosh. Now, while she’s baking up a storm for the show, Lily must also whip up an impromptu investigation . . . before the murderer rolls someone else away.

4. The Paper Caper (A Bibliophile Mystery) by Kate Carlisle

Book 16

This is the 16th book in Kate Carlisle’s very popular Bibliophile mystery series. Kate is also the author of the very popular Fixer Upper Series and there are 10 books in this series with no signs of ending anytime soon. I love both these series even if I am behind in my series reading.

Brooklyn is excited to be included in the Covington Library’s first annual Mark Twain Festival. She’ll rebind a rare first edition of The Prince and the Pauper before an enthusiastic audience of book nerds — her favorite people. The festival is the passion project of wealthy media mogul, book lover, and newspaper owner Joseph Cabot, who considers himself Twain’s biggest fan. Brooklyn’s hunky husband, Derek, and his security team once rescued Joseph from a corporate kidnapping attempt. Now Derek and his agents are charged with keeping Joseph and his beautiful young wife safe during the festivities taking place all over town.

The centerpiece of the festival is a citywide contest based on The Prince and the Pauper one lucky look-alike will trade places with Joseph for a few days — with access to all the money and power that Joseph commands. Brooklyn and Derek worry that the contest might be generating some dangerous attention. And when someone is mysteriously poisoned right before Brooklyn’s eyes, she’s not convinced that the victim was the intended target. Now she and Derek must frantically chase clues and suspects through the streets of San Francisco before another murder becomes front-page news.

5. Death of an Ice Cream Scooper (Hayley Powell Food & Cocktails Mystery) by Lee Hollis

Book 15

The 15th book in the Hayley Powell series which is written by a brother & sister team which I think is so neat. I’ve read the 1st book in this series and found it so so thus I haven’t added the other books in the series to my TBR but I plan to get book 2 in this series and give it another try.

Book Blurb:

Food and cocktails columnist Hayley Powell doesn’t know what to believe when Lydia Partridge, the put-together owner of gourmet Bar Harbor Ice Cream, suddenly reveals fears that her husband may be having an affair. There’s no other way to explain why Jamie, a respected professor, was spotted in a remote part of town with a much younger woman. But instead of learning the truth about the secret meeting, Lydia opens her freezer truck to find another surprise — the dead body of a summer employee…

The shock continues as photographic evidence proves Jamie was spending time off campus with the victim, one of his students. Now, Lydia desperately needs Hayley to discover if Jamie really is a cheater — and, worse, a ruthless killer. With her own complicated family issues to address, can Hayley make sense of a popular college girl’s love life and out the true culprit before the case, or another person, goes cold?

6. Death a Sketch (A Paint and Shine Mystery) by Cheryl Hollon

Book 3

This is the third book in this series that has been on my to buy list forever but as I’m sure you can relate so many books so little time but I definitely plan to grab the first book in the series Still Knife Painting. This series is set in Kentucky with good reviews.

Book Blurb:

Miranda’s business — combining Appalachian adventure tours with art and a bit of moonshine — is the perfect place for an outdoor sporting goods company to hold an employee retreat. It’ll be a challenge, but the money they’re paying will definitely help with building her new distillery.

Miranda has lots of teamwork-fostering activities planned, from sketching classes to Southern cooking, but the executive running things prefers a more competitive spirit. In fact, after the workers are split into teams, they’re told that only the winners will keep their jobs, and tensions begin to spike. Even after a participant is found dead, the contest continues — while Miranda starts drawing her own conclusions about the ambitious attendees. Now she just has to find the proof . . .

7. Murder at the Blueberry Festival (A Beacon Bakeshop Mystery) by Darci Hannah

Book 3

I saved the best for last! I love this series….LOVE! How much do I love this series you may ask? I am reading the 2nd book in this series Murder at the Christmas Cookie Bake-off now and I am not a Christmas in July girl at all! I wait until Christmas to read all holiday theme cozies but the first book was so good I read it in one sitting that once I read my book club picks for this month I grabbed the second book ready to go back to Beacon Harbor, MI!

Book blurb:

After a career on Wall Street, Lindsey Bakewell is making a different kind of dough in a pretty lakeside village, and the upcoming blueberry festival — including the pie-eating contest her bakery is hosting — is the highlight of the summer. But soon Beacon Harbor runs into a patch of trouble.

A local real estate agent gets pranked. A parade float gets pelted with water balloons. It’s all laughed off until the stunts start escalating — and looking more like sabotage. As the event turns into a debacle complete with rampaging goats, Lindsey’s sweetheart, a former SEAL, starts investigating. But the juicy mystery takes a bitter turn when a man — dressed up as a Viking — is found dead in a boat, and it’s no longer mischief but murder…

Until next time!

Just Add Color

Happy Thursday Southernistas! Wow I can’t believe this month is almost over! Next week is the last week of July and August is just around the corner alas I can hear the groans of millions of children and the cries of joy from said children parents. My very own offspring will be starting Pharmacy School next month at my alma mater so yes I am a very proud mama! Can’t wait to attend her coat ceremony next month.

As I was thinking about what I wanted to talk to y’all about I gained inspiration from what I wore yesterday. For those of you who’ve been following me from day one then you know I love color and I love bold and bright colors. If I’m wearing black or another dark color then I must add a pop of color to my look. It is rare that I will do a head to toe monochrome look unless it is red or another color.

Now I can already hear you lovers of black saying “black is a color and it goes with everything!” Look I am all for black in fact I recently did a whole post about a LBD (little black dress) I recently got and loved but hear me out: color is your friend!

I’m going to repeat myself: you can still wear black but just…add…color! A cut yellow (or whatever color) top with those pants or skirt will take your look to another level. Or a cute pair of shoes in another color or colorful print works also or if you carry a bag of any type let be a color.

For so many years we as plus size women have been told to wear all black because it makes you look smaller but you know what that’s not true if you wear all black you’ll be a plus size woman wearing all black so throw out those stupid rules and wear your favorite color or that color you’ve always wanted to wear but was afraid to because of “advice” friends, family and total strangers feel the need to offer you.

Wear that bold color, for me its red, or that cute pastel color you’ve been eyeing longingly but afraid to wear. There is no such thing as a color you can’t wear because every color comes in varying shades of that color red is not just red there are various shades of red. You feel like yellow washes you out and makes you shallow or pale try wearing gold which is a shade of yellow.

I have for years avoided wearing the color pink even though I do love the color (no as much as red) but I always felt like it just didn’t look good on me but I finally decided I’m going to wear pink. Now I haven’t invested in a full head to toe look but I have a pink hounds tooth skirt and another skirt in a shade of pink. I am slowly working my up to a full head to toe look but my point is start with something and own the look!

This Orange dress from Eloquii is still available

Color is a huge mood lifter too! During the winter months I suffer with Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) and nothing gives me a big boost during those cold gray days then to wear a lot of color. If you want to get that guy to notice you go for a little red dress instead of a little black dress and va va voom!

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So I want to encourage you to take a good long look at your closet and Just…Add…Color!

Until next time Southernistas!

This teal skirt from Ashley Stewart!

Wednesday Reads

Happy Wednesday book lovers! We’re half way through the week and getting ready for the weekend! Since last week I’ve added to my TBR (to be read) list with some more great mysteries which I did a book haul on my Instagram .

Here is what I’m reading and upcoming reads.

Finished reading:

Murder at the Beacon Bakeshop (A Beacon Bakeshop Mystery #1) by Darci Hannah

This is a MUST read!

OMG y’all I was not expecting this book to be so good so I was beyond happy in fact so happy I ordered the second book in the series and pre-ordered the third book in the series! I loved the fact that Lindsey Bakewell was a highly successful and financially independent woman in her own right who trades in her high powered Wall Street job to open a bakery in Beacon Harbor, MI. It’s not random either her father grew up in Traverse City, MI where Lindsey spent her childhood summers in her grandparents bakeshop where she learned and developed a love of baking. They would take her to Beacon Harbor for a day trip on the weekends so it is only natural she would find herself back in a place that is like a second home to her after catching her fiancé with the pastry chef.

Lindsey works hard to get her bakeshop ready for its Memorial Day weekend opening. Everything is going well the shop is full and everything is selling fast until her cheating ex and the “tart” of a pastry chef Mia show up to ruin her opening along with the local lighthouse preservation society protesters. Things go from bad to worse when in all the chaos (there’s a food fight) Mia drops dead and Lindsey as the scorned woman is the prime suspect. Now Lindsey finds herself trying to find the killer and save her bakery or should she just pack up and go back to New York?

I loved Lindsey Bakewell, the residents of Beacon Harbor especially the new man in her life Rory, and her fashionable best friend who comes to visit and help with PR. I thought I had it figured out who the killer was but was I ever wrong. There was a twist thrown in and then when the killer was revealed I was just blown away! Everything worked for me even the haunted lighthouse angle.

5 Stars!

Currently reading:

Murder Is No Picnic (Cape Cod Foodie Mystery #3) by Amy Pershing

I know in last week’s post I said this was the second book in the series but this is actually the third book in the Cape Cod foodie series. I am really enjoying this cozy mystery series and it’s July 4th theme which makes me wish I’d read it at the beginning of this month but since this is my Facebook book club July read I always read my book club picks closer to the date we will be discussing the book.

Next read:

Murder, She Knit (A Knit & Nibbles Mystery #1) by Peggy Ehrhart

Cozy Mystery Book Club July Pick

Investing in Quality

Hello Southernistas! I hope y’all have had an amazing week and are ready for rest & relaxation in whatever form it takes for you this weekend. There is a a lot of discussion today about the affect fashion fashion is having on the environment. First let me say this is not me putting fast fashion down at all! Fast fashion is perfect when you’re starting out as a young person in the work force and you don’t have the funds to shop at brands with higher price points or if you are on a tight budget then fast fashion brands are perfect.

Having said that I want to encourage you to not totally dismiss Torrid, Eloquii, Lane Bryant, Ashley Stewart, independent designers such as Jibri and Zellie for She, and local boutiques (you’ll be helping your local economy too) which I know are expensive but the quality you will get is well worth your money. The material is quality and these are pieces that will last you for years. I know for many, myself included, we live on a budget and I would suggest to think making these purchases every quarter or seasonally when you’re looking to update/refresh your wardrobe and cleaning out your closet. Also check out mid-season sales that usually happen in July when retailers are trying to clear their summer inventory to make way for their fall collections. Check out your local consignment shops, thrift stores, and online thrifting sites like Thred Up and Poshmark.

This dress I am wearing I bought from Eloquii 5 years ago and it looks like I just bought it yesterday. It was worth and still is worth every penny I paid for it along with several other dresses in my closet that I’ve had for several years now.

Until next time Southernistas!

Wednesday’s OOTD

Wednesday Reads

Hello fellow book lovers! Wednesday is here and I hope you’re having a good week so far. Looks like July is going to be a good reading month for me even if I did kick it off sick but I’m back now and feeling so much better! For this week’s post I am also sharing a Bible study that I am using right now.

Bible Study

Discerning the Voice of God: How to Recognize when God Speaks by Priscilla Shirer

When I am not reading a mystery I am always looking for a great Bible Study I can use in my quite time and my go to is usually for my Bible studies. This Bible Study I am using is a 7 week Bible Study by Priscilla Shirer. I am in the first week and I am really enjoying this so much. Priscilla makes it really simple and easy to follow along and I love the questions that are included with each subject.

Finished reading:

All Fudged Up (A Candy Coated Mystery) by Nancy Coco

I finally finished the first book in Nancy Coco’s candy coated mystery series which really should be called a fudge shop mystery series. This book was my book club’s June pick and I didn’t finish it when I thought I would for various reasons.

Allie McAllister is determined to keep her family’s 120 year old hotel and fudge shop business on Mackinac Island thriving. With a degree from culinary school and new fudge recipes she is ready to keep the family legacy going. She is in the process of renovating the McAllister with money her dear now deceased Papa Luis left when she stumbles upon the body of her grandfather’s best friend Joe Jessop in her second floor utility closet. Now with Allie being the number one suspect in the eyes of one very good looking Officer Rex Manning and the fate of her family legacy on the line plus the whole island taking sides she knows she has to find out who killed Joe in her hotel and win over the local population before the tourist season starts.

With the help of Frances, her best friend Jenn, and her new little puppy Marshmallow (Mal for short) she starts her investigation. This book was a really enjoyable read and it is a straight mystery so there is no subplot going on which can be nice but sometimes it takes away from the actual story.

When the killers (yes plural) were revealed I was totally taken by surprise but in a good way and I was disappointed.

5 stars

It Takes Two to Mango (Trouble in Paradise Mystery) by Carrie Doyle

I must confess this book has been on my TBR since last year and then I heard a YouTuber review this book and she disliked this book so much she didn’t finish it so I was very hesitant to read this book. Well I’m glad I read this book I started reading this book Saturday and finished it Saturday it is just that good. Now I’ll admit Plum Lockhart is not likable at all (think Agatha Raisin) but if you keep reading you will warm up to Plum which is what happened to me.

Plum Lockhart finds herself out of a job when the travel magazine she was editor in chief of is shut down by the publisher. As her job prospects grow dimmer and dimmer she finds herself accepting a job with a luxury resort on the Caribbean Island of Paraiso and she hates it! Everything moves so slowly (tranquilo is the island motto) and is nothing like New York, the heat is not her friend nor her hair’s friend, plus there is Damian Rodriguez her co-worker and mortal enemy. Plum decides that she’ll stick it out until she finds a better job…in New York!

Things go from bad to worse when she rents out Villa Mango to a bachelor party (against company policy) and one of the members of the party is found dead the next day it is declared an accident by the police who is intent on protecting Paraiso’s tourism industry but Plum knows its no accident and she along with the help of the handsome chief of security Juan Kevin sets out to find the killer.

I found this such an enjoyable and fun read. There were moments when I laughed out loud and Plum is prickly, rude and bossy for most of the book but Juan Kevin was the perfect balance and her reality check.

I give this book 5 stars!

Currently reading:

Murder at the Beacon Bakeshop (A Beacon Bakeshop Mystery) by Darci Hannah

Wealthy New York investment banker Lindsey Bakewell is living her dream in the little town of Beacon Harbor, MI where she spent summers with her grandparents after a bad breakup in which she catches her ex-fiancé with the pastry chef. She is opening up a bakery shop. I got this book after seeing so many recommendations I love when a book recommendation doesn’t disappoint.

Book blurb:

More interested in kneading dough than adding it up, Lindsey’s breakup inspired her to set up the shop she always wanted in a place that always made her happy. She’d spent many childhood summers near this beach community and converting the old run-down lighthouse into a bakery café and home offers a perfect fresh start for Lindsey and her devoted Newfoundland dog, Wellington.

But not everyone in town has a sweet tooth. The preservation society won’t have the lighthouse’s history sugar coated by lattes and cakes — and a protest group crashes Lindsey’s Memorial Day opening. Then her ex-fiancé Jeffrey Plank and his girlfriend Mia Wong arrive to trash the place. In the ensuing chaos Mia chokes on a donut and dies.

An autopsy reveals cyanide in Mia’s bloodstream and Lindsey is the police’s prime suspect. To clear her name, she’s going to need to combine ingredients found in the town’s checkered past to uncover the identity of a desperate killer.


Murder is No Picnic (A Cape Cod Foodie Mystery) by Amy Pershing

Book 2

This is the second book in the Cape Cod Foodie mystery series and it is my Facebook book club July read. It is also a perfect summer read if your looking to add to your summer reading list.

Book blurb:

When a celebrity chef is found dead, Samantha Barnes, the Cape Cod Foodie, finds her search for the world’s best blueberry buckle turning into a search for a killer

The Fourth of July is coming, and for professional food lover Samantha Barnes, it’s all about the picnic. Okay, and the fireworks. And the parade. But mostly the picnic. What could be better than a DIY clambake followed by the best blueberry buckle in the world? Sam has finally found the perfect recipe in the kitchen of Clara Foster, famed cookbook author and retired restaurateur, and she’s thrilled when Clara agrees to a buckle baking lesson.

But when Clara dies in a house fire blamed on carelessness in the kitchen, Sam doesn’t believe it. Unfortunately, her doubts set in motion an investigation pointing to the new owner of Clara’s legendary restaurant — and a cousin of Sam’s harbormaster boyfriend. So, in between researching the Cape’s best lobster rolls and planning her clambake, Sam needs to find Clara’s killer before the fireworks really start….

Murder, She Knit (A Knit & Nibble Mystery) by Peggy Ehrhart

This is the first book in a new mystery series and the July pick for the other book club I am a member of! I am always up for a title that is a play on Murder, She Wrote. Book clubs are wonderful because they give you a chance to discover new authors and keeps your TBR list growing.

Book blurb

Since her only daughter left for college, widow Pamela Paterson has kept busy as associate editor of a craft magazine and founder of the Knit and Nibble knitting club in quaint Arborville, New Jersey. Now, she’s trying out a new hobby — solving murders!

Pamela is hosting the next Knit and Nibble meeting and can’t wait to liven up her otherwise empty home with colorful yarn, baking, and a little harmless gossip. She even recruits Amy Morgan, an old friend who recently moved to town, as the group’s newest member. But on the night of the gathering, Amy doesn’t show. Not until Pamela finds the woman dead outside — a knitting needle stabbed through the front of her handmade sweater . . .

Someone committed murder before taking off with Amy’s knitting bag, and Pamela realizes that only she can spot the deadly details hidden in mysterious skeins. But when another murder occurs, naming the culprit — and living to spin the tale — will be more difficult than Pamela ever imagined . . .

The Ultimate LBD

Hello Southernistas! I thought about writing about 4th of July inspired fashion but I decided to give it a pass this year and just encourage you if you feel so inclined to rock the red, white, and blue!

Instead I want to spotlight this cute faux leather with mesh inserts LBD (little black dress) I scored from Ashley Stewart and it was in the clearance section. Last time I checked this dress was still available in limited sizes but it is still available so go check it out. If you’ve been wanting to jump into the cut out trend but are not fully on board with it this dress is the perfect alternative to a dress with cut outs with its mesh inserts.

I am a big fan of the LBD and am a firm believer it should be in every girl’s closet. It is literally the most versatile and sexiest piece in your closet I promise you. It can go from day to night all with the simple change of accessories. Gone are the days of a so called plain simple black dress now they are body con, cut out, and faux leather and mesh. I am wearing a shaper slip underneath (it’s not lined) but you can wear it without anything underneath if you want to show skin and it runs large so if you want a fitted look size down if your size it is available.

Until next time Southernistas!

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Wednesday Reads

Hello book lovers and let me say in advance HAPPY 4TH! If you’re traveling for the holiday I pray you have safe travels and cheap gas! If not enjoy the fireworks!

I’ve included some 4th of July cozy mystery recommendations at the end!

Happy reading!

Currently Reading

All Fudged Up (Book 1 — A Candy-Cody Mystery) by Nancy Coco

This series has been on my radar for over a year but never quite made it on to my TBR list so I was happy when this was the June pick for one of my book clubs. I didn’t finish it in time for book club so I couldn’t fully participate in the discussion and thankfully no one gave away who the murderer was!

I can honestly say I hate that I am just now reading the first book in this series (there are currently 10 books) because this is such a great book.

Finished Reading

Smile Beach Murder (Book 1-An Outer Banks Bookshop Mystery) by Alicia Bessette

I really enjoyed the mystery. I would classify this as a slightly dark cozy mystery. Callie Padget finds herself back home on Cattail Island after she is laid off from her job at a reporter with the Charlotte newspaper worked at and working at The Mother Vine Bookshop. Cattail Island was not where she wanted to be with memories of her mother who died 26 years when she fell off the lighthouse but her she was temporarily (so she thinks).

When I first started reading Smile Beach I thought the plot would be Callie trying to connect her mom’s death and Eva’s death but I’m glad that wasn’t the case and Eva’s death was the focus. While everyone was ruling Eva’s death as a suicide only Callie & Eva’s daughter think there is more to it and Callie sets out to put her news reporter skills to work to find out what actually happened to Eva. Callie is the quintessential intrepid reporter asking questions and determined to find the killer. I thought Summer would be more involved with the sleuthing but wasn’t really present and when I thought Summer would be of some help with a particular riddle the author decided not to use the young Summer. Also I felt the book was just a tad too long! There are 60+ chapters and there were times I grew a little book weary as I read the book but overall I did enjoy the book.

3 stars!

Next Read

It Take’s Two to Mango (Trouble in Paradise Mystery Book 1) by Carri Doyle

I’ve heard some great reviews and some not so great reviews but I am looking forward to reading this cozy set in the Caribbean! This will be the first cozy I read that takes place in a tropical setting.

Book Blurb

After Plum Lockhart’s job as a travel magazine editor is eliminated in corporate cuts, she decides she’s sick of cold winters in NYC and fruitless swiping on dating apps — what she needs is a dramatic change of scenery. On a whim, she accepts a job as a villa broker and moves to a beautiful Caribbean island.

However, paradise isn’t as perfect as it seems: the slow pace of island life, the language barrier, and a cutthroat office rival make Plum question leaving her old life behind. But when a client is found dead in the jacuzzi of Casa Mango — a property Plum manages — she knows she’s really in a jam. With a killer loose on the island Plum will have to deal with a stonewalling police chief, a string of baffling clues, and a handsome Director of Security to solve this deadly case!

Fourth of July recommendations (available in all formats)

Hair of the Dog (A Melanie Travis Mystery Book 4) by Laurien Berension

The Chocolate Frog Frame-Up (A Chocoholic Mystery Book #3) by Joanna Carl

Twanged (A Regan Reilly Mystery Book 4) Mary Higgins Clark

Murder Most Frothy (A Coffehouse Mystery Book 4) by Cleo Coyle

A Catered Fourth of July (A Mystery with Recipes Book 10) by Isis Crawford

Oh Say Can You Fudge (A Candy Coated Mystery Book 3) by Nancy Coco

Fireworks in Paradise (TJ Jensen Mystery Book 8) by Kathi Daley

Summer Style…Summer Vibes

Hello Southernistas! We are three days into summer and at the risk of being repetitive I…AM….HERE…FOR…IT…YES! All of it! The sun, fun, long days, and of course the fashion. Now I’ve already talked about how I consider this maxi dress season but there is so much more than maxi dresses. I love the swimwear that is always next level, the cute skirts, sandals (high & low heels), cute tops, and the colors and prints. This is the time of year that I put away my pants and leggings because I just fine them too hot to wear and break out the skorts and shorts.

I decided this year to not do as much shopping as I usually do for this season but I have picked up a few things like this cute top from Eloquii (got it in every color) their semi annual sale is going on now, a few skirts (wearing one of them) and dresses from Ashley Stewarts, and of course a few more maxi dresses from Lane Bryant. I love to purchase my maxi dresses from Lane Bryant because they offer, not all, but most of them in petite (5″3 & under) so I don’t have to get them altered or wear heels all them time with them.

I encourage y’all don’t cover those arms and legs just because someone has a problem with how you look! You deserve to be just as cool and comfortable as our smaller sisters and brothers. Get that summer vibe going and enjoy SUMMER!

Until next time Southernistas!

Top EloquiiSkirt Ashley Stewart
Gingham Pink Maxi Dress Lane Bryant

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